Divorce in America

[SUBLIMINAL//RUSH]

Divorce Statistics (http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml)
From a Valid Site.

Today in America, it seems that more and more people are getting Divorces. Do you believe that getting a divorce is right or wrong?

In my opinion, its okay to get a divorce if you are in an abusive relationship or in one where your "significant other" doesn't love you. But, on the other hand, you knew before you got into the relationship what kind of person they were, and, if you didn't, then you should have learned more about them.

What are your views?

Please, state your reasoning if you participate in the poll.

S//R

[robbie makin love]

marrige these days is blinded by money and law
an uprise in divorce is pretty much unstoppable
no matter what your views are on it theres pretty much no hope of it going down unless theres some change in the system
which is a shame cus divorce does horrible things if children are caught up in it
but hey, money always wins
its the world we live in

[Juji Kabane]

Well It happens all the time as sad as it is. Divorces are a big deal. people fall out of love. it happens. and kids get hurt the most. its all about money. how sad.

[K H P]

Problems just occur, stress usually builds tension, meaning fights are way more capable of uprising. Stress could come from something like work, big things that just never go away and you constantly are stressed and upset, it's hard to be with someone like that, and the love begins to fade and the two just give up.

I don't think it's terrible, sure, marriage is a huge commitment and some people don't really think before they make a choice and just go for it because in the moment you could say you are so in love, but that could change in a matter of months.

There's a bunch of reasons, people just need to know if they are really in love, or if they are just thinking, "well, It's been awhile, might as well make the next step." Then again in marriage it's other things then just love, like it's a partnership because this is the person you are going to be with forever, to have each other for better or for worst, meaning you should never give up, and do whatever you can to fix any problems.

uh...yeah...

My parents are divorced, I'm ok with it, I don't think it is so bad, they still fight sometimes, but they are still somewhat friends...


Divorce = alrighty-o

[Juji Kabane]

My mom and dad are Divorce. i am ok. it happened when i was a baby. and i wish people would find away to stay together. its just sad sad sad.

[Riku-Sora]

I think getting a divorce is wrong. Marriage was always supposed to be a commitment between a man and woman.

Now I understand if it was because of an abusive relationship that developed over time but it seems quite pathetic when it starts happening just because of gaining money from it. It is even worse when you use your own kids to do it. Disgust me people using child support as a way to gain extra money from the other family member.

Plus, I will never get why people cheat on each other when they made a commitment on one another. It is like people in society today don't seem to care anymore and marriage is something that can be brushed off these days. Shame how it used to actually mean something years back.

It is rare these days to actually have couples still together because all I seem to hear anymore is how someone got a divorce. It is quite sad.

[SUBLIMINAL//RUSH]

One of the reasons I think people are divorcing so much is from what they see on t.v. Everyday on the entertainment channel, or VH1, you hear reports of celebs getting divorces. I think that is a very big factor in it, especially for teens.

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[Mature]

I voted YES

I think Divorce is okay. Sometimes people jump into decisions that they're not 100% sure about, sometimes they are though... and things happen in the future. Yeah divorce must suck for the kids, I wont deny that for a second, I saw how it affected kids who I grew up with. But as they get older they realize that they're not losing their parents, and they can have them both, of course it would hurt not to see your parents together, but for the parents who get divorced but some how manage to keep friends, I give a lot of credit to.

My parents are not divorced, sometimes I wish they had gotten a divorce though, when I was younger, they use to fight all the time, lots of crying and stuff, my dad has left my house more than a handful of times due to a fight, sometimes I would just tell my mom, if it's that bad why don't you guys just get a divorce.. sometimes its better for parents to get a divorce to stop the problems at home. My parents still have their problems from time to time, but they some how managed to hold together, they're getting better at it I have to say...

It all depends on the kind of situation... Would you want to be married to someone you learn you have lost the desire for, would you want to be married to someone who was unfaithful to you, would you want to be married to someone who abuses you, someones who mistreats you...

it all comes down to that, but yeah, in a sense it has nothing to do with the children, its about the parents I think.

[Xarjon]

Divorce isn't right. When you get married, you make a commitment to that person that lasts the rest of your life. Like the vows say "Through sickness and health, till death do we part."
It seems that nowadays those vows are losing their importance. People are too quick to jump the gun and get married with not enough/the wrong reasons. You should get to know your significant other really well before you get married, since you know that it is supposed to last a life time.
I was watching this reality show on FOX where contestants are asked a question in front of an audience, and the announcer uses a lie detector to tell if their answer was true or not. There was a question on there that stood out. The question was "Do you plan to still be with your wife in the next five years?"(Or something like that). I was not only shocked to see that this would even be a question on there, but that there was such a long pause before the answer. Luckily, the contestant said "yes". But it's still wrong that marriage isn't as sacred as it used to be.

Now, as a christian, I believe what the bible says, and while divorce is wrong, there is one condition mentioned in the bible. The only reason you should get a divorce, is if your spouse cheats on you.

[darkheart4ever]

I voted YES

I think Divorce is okay. Sometimes people jump into decisions that they're not 100% sure about, sometimes they are though... and things happen in the future. Yeah divorce must suck for the kids, I wont deny that for a second, I saw how it affected kids who I grew up with. But as they get older they realize that they're not losing their parents, and they can have them both, of course it would hurt not to see your parents together, but for the parents who get divorced but some how manage to keep friends, I give a lot of credit to.

My parents are not divorced, sometimes I wish they had gotten a divorce though, when I was younger, they use to fight all the time, lots of crying and stuff, my dad has left my house more than a handful of times due to a fight, sometimes I would just tell my mom, if it's that bad why don't you guys just get a divorce.. sometimes its better for parents to get a divorce to stop the problems at home. My parents still have their problems from time to time, but they some how managed to hold together, they're getting better at it I have to say...
It all depends on the kind of situation... Would you want to be married to someone you learn you have lost the desire for, would you want to be married to someone who was unfaithful to you, would you want to be married to someone who abuses you, someones who mistreats you...

it all comes down to that, but yeah, in a sense it has nothing to do with the children, its about the parents I think.

I'm somewhat for both

first of all u marry someone bec u want to be with for the rest of your entire life not until you get bored of each other

then again therer's ppl who get married that shouldn't be married at all...

[Mature]

Sometimes people are in lust relationships though... and as time goes.. some people change, sometimes you might see your wife catching an attitude, or your husband just not caring whatsoever... of course I'd say try counceling first, try confronting the problem, but if that doesn't work, what are you suppose to do, just sit there and deal with?

Divorce should be taken only if those attempts at saving your marraige fail, I dont thik you should jump the gun and do it without trying first.

[darkheart4ever]

marriage without interaction and effort is no marriage that's living with someone.

[Soul Of Destiny]

Divorce usualy comes to most marriages honestly.

It's innevetable.
:/ If it happens it happens.

[darkheart4ever]

that's bec ppl are stupid a nd marry early...

[The King of KH]

i voted yes..................for a lot of reasons.

[Mature]

It's not that peopel are stupid, it can happen to anyone, did you ever make a decision then the externality happens to be negative? Not everything turns out positive, even those most seemingly right things to do can lead to bad turn outs, you never really know what can happen in the future.

It's just one of those forces that you can't control.

[SoraRoxas285]

No its just because of how they cant take it anymore, or that they are unable to keep it anymore.