What cause's Love (in humans)

[Yellow Flash]

I had a desicussion with a friend of mine about the subject of love, more importantlly, the subject of what causes love? And I was wondering what you think of it? So what causes love in humans? What casues one person to be atracted to another person? What casues prefrences in parnters? (for eg: I like redheads.....) So do you have any opinions?

[mysteryRoxas]

i dunno. Love in a human can be said to be justified by hormones, but i think there's moer to it. something that lies deep in our hearts. it's what connects two searching hearts together in an unbreakable bond, no matter what.

[The King of KH]

I say Hormones.................

[Yellow Flash]

i dunno. Love in a human can be said to be justified by hormones, but i think there's moer to it. something that lies deep in our hearts. it's what connects two searching hearts together in an unbreakable bond, no matter what.

This is sort of what I believe....like soulmates I guess, But I think it is just a mystery of life (that I'd like to figure out)

[The Real keyblade Master]

i dunno. Love in a human can be said to be justified by hormones, but i think there's moer to it. something that lies deep in our hearts. it's what connects two searching hearts together in an unbreakable bond, no matter what.

You should lay off the Kingdom Hearts man

jk:D

I say Hormones as well

[V. Valentine]

Hormones and Personailty

[cbchick]

Hormones and Personailty

agreed.

[The King of KH]

When a man glances at a womens behind and likes it. He runs after her. Casuing him to love her.

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[K H P]

Welp ya like something, then you keep on doing that something, so you love that something cause you do it a lot. Yeah.


Ok I agree with Hormones and Personality too.

[ultima207]

hormones personality and interests

[AnotherX]

hormones personality and interests

Aren't personality and interests the same? But I agree with you.

[-RikuKH3]

When a man glances at a womens behind and likes it. He runs after her.
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Sounds a lot like lust rather than love.

[The King of KH]

Sounds a lot like lust rather than love.

lmao....

But its all Hormones.

[NemoFan]

Our privates teehee :x

[Miss Lockheart]

Love is caused by a combination of interests/personality, friendship, and hormones, I think. Evil buggers them hormones, they can sneak up on you when you're not looking >.>

Our privates teehee :x

Lol that certainly comes into it yes!!! :P

[Sora-Keyblade]

Love is caused by appearance or maybe personality or both themselves but some people prefer appearance more.

[The King of KH]

Love is caused by huge rears.

...

What Rob said........................

[Yellow Flash]

I don't think that it's hormones, cause hormones are activated by a stimulus, so what is the stimulus then?

[HappyHeartless]

BASIC HUMAN INSTINCT.
Atraction is something all animals have in common, and it's really just an instinct we've always had!

[robbie makin love]

a bi product of all natures instinct to pass on its gene and continue the species
its probably there due to our insane intelligence
hence why it dosnt happen on that level in animals

[Yellow Flash]

Yes, proberly, but what makes you attracted to whatever your attracted to??? (Such as hair colour, eye....etc)

[Lone Wolf]

This is usually affected by personality and interests, but it works out more with personal experiences. You might like the color of their hair because you like how they look, but subconsciously you might expect red heads to be a certain way.

It really has a lot to do with what you expect out of someone. I don't believe a soul mate exists. Thats rubish.

I can assure you that you marry whoever you want, but theres always going to be someone better out there. Thats the whole idea of it though. If you think you met your match, are you going to follow through? Then there are the temptations, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.

Personally from my own religious view, they're tests to test you, but thats not the topic.

So in general it all has to do with maybe genes, also trends, and the likes. Its affected by what you're exposed to, wether they be positive or negative. Now love... thats a whole different topic. There are many types of love. You can love your mother, but you might not love her the same way you love your friend. You don't love her like you might love your girlfriend, I certainly hope not.

Its a complicated matter, with too many variables involved to come up with a definite conclusion.

[robbie makin love]

peoples preferences to significant others is the same as everything else in life
ur past, the people u look up to, ur thorts on the future or just realtion to other things in life that u like
when u think about it love isnt too complicated
its a lil bit blown out of proportion really

[mysteryRoxas]

persona.
that's what attracts me to him. sorry, but yes. persona

[Jess]

Attraction. A lot of things cause attraction, but that is what causes one to fall in love.

[Daycarow VanSinn]

Okay well there this thing called "emergence" (this takes place when your still developing a.k.a when you still in the woumb) this is what creates your consciousness with differnt types, pules, and tones of energy that flows through are little brains, Anyway there are endless combinationsof this thus' endless amounts of differnt consciousness and its your consciousness that holds your preferences say... someone who never likes to take on controll of anything compaered to someone who like to have total controll and then theres the preferences or how some one looks I can go on for days... but I wont and be glad that I'm not :D

[Yellow Flash]

Okay well there this thing called "emergence" (this takes place when your still developing a.k.a when you still in the woumb) this is what creates your consciousness with differnt types, pules, and tones of energy that flows through are little brains, Anyway there are endless combinationsof this thus' endless amounts of differnt consciousness and its your consciousness that holds your preferences say... someone who never likes to take on controll of anything compaered to someone who like to have total controll and then theres the preferences or how some one looks I can go on for days... but I wont and be glad that I'm not :D

That makes sense, and where the heck to you find that out!!!! (If it's a book a would like to read it.) Yeah, now I agree with this guy.....as well as Lone Wolf.

[Daycarow VanSinn]

sorry I really dont remeber I think I herd it on the sci. channel

[Yellow Flash]

Oh nuts.......TO THE SIC CHANNEL!!!!!!!

[Axizol]

Love is basically the activation of the Brain Reward system when you think of a certain person. It's a matter of how much your Brain Reward system is activated that determines how much you fancy them.

[Yellow Flash]

Love is basically the activation of the Brain Reward system when you think of a certain person. It's a matter of how much your Brain Reward system is activated that determines how much you fancy them.

SO how is the Brain Reward system activated, may I ask you?

[Axizol]

neurotransmitters send positive messages to your brain when you see somebody you like, a friend, taste something good, feel good, etc.

[Yellow Flash]

neurotransmitters send positive messages to your brain when you see somebody you like, a friend, taste something good, feel good, etc.

Oh ok.

[Axizol]

Lol, at least that's my theory.

[Yellow Flash]

Hmmmm....ok, my theory is already posted on the 3rd page

[zeffie]

SO how is the Brain Reward system activated, may I ask you?

gogo *Activate Brain Reward system* what do I win!? Lol.. Alright enough spam..

My essential understanding is that a varied amount of circumstances both external and internal lead to love between two individuals.. such as attraction, instinct, desire, likes and dislikes, communication.. subtle indirect tells that lead to attraction in conjunction to a potential relationship and potential love. Tells like a girl scratching her hand, or neck.. or touching her hair.. etc.

And simply finding mutual agreement in one another to determine love be had..

Meh, I think I just explained how love happens, not why it is caused.. oh well.. I fail.

[Yellow Flash]

gogo *Activate Brain Reward system* what do I win!? Lol.. Alright enough spam..

My essential understanding is that a varied amount of circumstances both external and internal lead to love between two individuals.. such as attraction, instinct, desire, likes and dislikes, communication.. subtle indirect tells that lead to attraction in conjunction to a potential relationship and potential love. Tells like a girl scratching her hand, or neck.. or touching her hair.. etc.

And simply finding mutual agreement in one another to determine love be had..

Meh, I think I just explained how love happens, not why it is caused.. oh well.. I fail.

Well knowing why it happens can also be useful......(I think.....)

[Angelic_Darkness24]

I had a desicussion with a friend of mine about the subject of love, more importantlly, the subject of what causes love? And I was wondering what you think of it? So what causes love in humans? What casues one person to be atracted to another person? What casues prefrences in parnters? (for eg: I like redheads.....) So do you have any opinions?

you want to know what causes love?....the feeling of needing someone...the attraction between ppl is either because of something in common or nothing in common and its curiosity in the way they live. or its because of something else and well thats not supposed to be said here and so i wont say it. then sometimes ppl like one another as friends for a long time and they get to know the other person so well that it changes them a little.. they feel the need to become closest to that person and so what is called love is born...or at least i think that is a reason. its also got something to do with animal attraction to. and hormones in your body that work after you hit a certain age.

[asylum51]

There's only one problem w/ the hormones idea which Yellow Flash pointed out:

....what makes you attracted to whatever your attracted to??? (Such as hair colour, eye....etc)

A lot of it is instinct. But we don't love every person we see, so what our instincts must do is separate the ones we "like" (potential partners) from everyone else. Physical attraction is purely instinctual- no one can tell you that you like someone or force you to like someone. Physical attraction is a combination of our subconscious stereotypes and what we think is the ideal mold for physical perfection.

(I happen to think dark, curly hair is attractive, not only because I have had good experiences with girls with that description, but because I personally think it is the most aesthetically pleasing to the eye. Which may be why my girlfriend is Brazilian....)

There's this funny thing called "Chemistry," which I think is a result of your un/subconscious weeding out potential mates. This is your instincts trying to predict or anticipate the success of a romantic relationship with that person. Love then according to Webster's Dictionary is a profound attachment to another person. Make sense?

[Keybladewarrior69]

I ahve a theory and i think it's right. Humans are on earth for one reason to live, bread and die. SO the circle of life continues.

[Daycarow VanSinn]

Yeah but the human circle issss..... wwwwaaayyyyyy.... to big humans over populating earth and this is why earths eco. system is so messed up. WERE ALL GOING TO DIE! .... have a nice day :D

[Yellow Flash]

A lot of it is instinct. But we don't love every person we see, so what our instincts must do is separate the ones we "like" (potential partners) from everyone else. Physical attraction is purely instinctual- no one can tell you that you like someone or force you to like someone. Physical attraction is a combination of our subconscious stereotypes and what we think is the ideal mold for physical perfection.

(I happen to think dark, curly hair is attractive, not only because I have had good experiences with girls with that description, but because I personally think it is the most aesthetically pleasing to the eye. Which may be why my girlfriend is Brazilian....)

There's this funny thing called "Chemistry," which I think is a result of your un/subconscious weeding out potential mates. This is your instincts trying to predict or anticipate the success of a romantic relationship with that person. Love then according to Webster's Dictionary is a profound attachment to another person. Make sense?

Yes this makes sense, so what we think is the ideal mold for physical perfection, must be worked into our subconscious when we are still in the womb, meaning eveyone will like a different type of person. (It is amazaging, how the human works....isn't it?)

[asylum51]

Yes this makes sense, so what we think is the ideal mold for physical perfection, must be worked into our subconscious when we are still in the womb, meaning eveyone will like a different type of person. (It is amazaging, how the human works....isn't it?)

Which is why we prefer one color/food/music over another. Individuality.

[Lone Wolf]

There's only one problem w/ the hormones idea which Yellow Flash pointed out:



A lot of it is instinct. But we don't love every person we see, so what our instincts must do is separate the ones we "like" (potential partners) from everyone else. Physical attraction is purely instinctual- no one can tell you that you like someone or force you to like someone. Physical attraction is a combination of our subconscious stereotypes and what we think is the ideal mold for physical perfection.

(I happen to think dark, curly hair is attractive, not only because I have had good experiences with girls with that description, but because I personally think it is the most aesthetically pleasing to the eye. Which may be why my girlfriend is Brazilian....)

There's this funny thing called "Chemistry," which I think is a result of your un/subconscious weeding out potential mates. This is your instincts trying to predict or anticipate the success of a romantic relationship with that person. Love then according to Webster's Dictionary is a profound attachment to another person. Make sense?
That sounds pretty much correct, although this is simply an imitation of the real answer(which no one has made yet.)

What I mean is, that if there were actually a correct answer that may have been a part of it.

[Yellow Flash]

Ok then....do you know the real answer??? (I'm not being mean....I'd like to know)

[The King of KH]

Huge rears and exploding breasts cause love........

[Lone Wolf]

Ok then....do you know the real answer??? (I'm not being mean....I'd like to know)
I'm afraid no one can really answer that.

I believe its part chemistry and part spiritual. When you love someone, there aren't any type of chemicals emmiting from either body. It's more of an abstract idea, where you love because need to. I believe that humanity was created with a need for being loved, every person on earth needs it, even the most cold-hearted humans.

[Yellow Flash]

I'm afraid no one can really answer that.

I believe its part chemistry and part spiritual. When you love someone, there aren't any type of chemicals emmiting from either body. It's more of an abstract idea, where you love because need to. I believe that humanity was created with a need for being loved, every person on earth needs it, even the most cold-hearted humans.

Yes that is ture, and most cold-hearted humans are like that, because they have hurt someone they loved.....

[darkheart4ever]

actually i would say that what causes love in humans is the need to protect others from harm.

[Yellow Flash]

The need? But wouldn't that be a prodox.....becasue evil people wouldn't feel the need to protect someone......but they would have to, to love.....so I don't think it's that

[Darkwatch]

The need to have someone by you that you have grown to enjoy his or her's presence is what I think causes love.

Though it varies.

[Yellow Flash]

The need to have someone by you that you have grown to enjoy his or her's presence is what I think causes love.

Though it varies.

Yeah, I think it is that combined with other things

[neko_sakura]

This is usually affected by personality and interests, but it works out more with personal experiences. You might like the color of their hair because you like how they look, but subconsciously you might expect red heads to be a certain way.

It really has a lot to do with what you expect out of someone. I don't believe a soul mate exists. Thats rubish.

I can assure you that you marry whoever you want, but theres always going to be someone better out there. Thats the whole idea of it though. If you think you met your match, are you going to follow through? Then there are the temptations, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.

Personally from my own religious view, they're tests to test you, but thats not the topic.

So in general it all has to do with maybe genes, also trends, and the likes. Its affected by what you're exposed to, wether they be positive or negative. Now love... thats a whole different topic. There are many types of love. You can love your mother, but you might not love her the same way you love your friend. You don't love her like you might love your girlfriend, I certainly hope not.

Its a complicated matter, with too many variables involved to come up with a definite conclusion.


.....completely. Like when you date a person at high school, that is merely because of convienience of location, you know? And many people believe there is a set time period one should go through before one gets married. I think it is about 2 years, they say.

[Yellow Flash]

.....completely. Like when you date a person at high school, that is merely because of convienience of location, you know? And many people believe there is a set time period one should go through before one gets married. I think it is about 2 years, they say.

Yeah, I think you need at least 2 years to know if you love someone....maybe more or less for some people

[neko_sakura]

Yeah, I think you need at least 2 years to know if you love someone....maybe more or less for some people

I once read this article about why it takes 2 years. Something about that being when the other person begins to show their true colors. Maybe one of these days I will find a copy of it and put it up for everyone to see.

[Yellow Flash]

Yeah.....maybe.....I think, it is so you can get to know the person better....and see all of their flaws, and talents and still love them

[neko_sakura]

uh-huh!:cool:

i'm not as cool as this suggests: :cool:

anyway, i just discovered the meaning of love!!! It is Riku!!:rikusad: :rikumad: :rikudrop: :rikucheer: :rikuthing: :rikushock:

[Yellow Flash]

Lol......Well I already posted on what causes love.....but the meaning of love.....that's harder to explain

[neko_sakura]

definately.

maybe it is one of those questions that people have to ask after they reach heaven, and then and only then maybe do they get the answer?

[Yellow Flash]

Yeah I can just see it......God? why do we love? and what is the meaing of it?
.......

[Sam Greenlet]

Wooh what i deep thread (Yellow Flash) but it seems pretty good I don't think think we will ever find out until we meet the right person and that only happens in special cases I think that this is awesome thread.

PS. Yellow Flash you comment on this more than everybody else combined

[Yellow Flash]

Yes I do........Sam

[neko_sakura]

hmmmm.... this looks interesting, but it is not the article i was talking about earlier...




Pain of Human Love

It is our love that draws us into our future and it is our innocent love of other humans that will draw us eventually into the arms of God.
www41.homepage.villanova.edu/donald.burt/god/32.htm · Cached

[Yellow Flash]

This is helpful, for another debate I am having with Phatom.......so thank you

[Phantom]

Such a tricky question...

Probably, it has to do with how you're raised. I once heard a story of a woman who's parents could never get along. So, when she met a nice guy with whom she got along with, she couldn't marry him. She had to find someone to fight with.

And supposedly it has to do with your immune system...but I think it's also largely based upon personality and the 'get along' factor.

[Yellow Flash]

Such a tricky question...

Probably, it has to do with how you're raised. I once heard a story of a woman who's parents could never get along. So, when she met a nice guy with whom she got along with, she couldn't marry him. She had to find someone to fight with.

And supposedly it has to do with your immune system...but I think it's also largely based upon personality and the 'get along' factor.

Yeah I also think it is bassed upon personality and the "get along factor" But it also has something to do, with how you were created.

[FlurryOfDancingFlames~]

Because I believe in re-incarnation, I believe that in previous lives, there was a lover, however, now, we find we are attracted to a person with the traits of the past lover. For example, if somebody had married a brunette in a previous life, they would be more inclined towards a brunette in this life.

But obviously, there are a lot of similar people. Science has proven that we are normally more attracted to people that look similar to us.

Also, you need to share some interests with the person, to find common ground. But I think the feeling of attraction is that somewhere in our conscience, we are putting all these elements together, and the feeling we get inside is the memories of the good times our previous self had shared with the spouse, awakening from inside our head.


But hey... that's just me.

[Miss Lockheart]

Because I believe in re-incarnation, I believe that in previous lives, there was a lover, however, now, we find we are attracted to a person with the traits of the past lover. For example, if somebody had married a brunette in a previous life, they would be more inclined towards a brunette in this life.

But obviously, there are a lot of similar people. Science has proven that we are normally more attracted to people that look similar to us.

Also, you need to share some interests with the person, to find common ground. But I think the feeling of attraction is that somewhere in our conscience, we are putting all these elements together, and the feeling we get inside is the memories of the good times our previous self had shared with the spouse, awakening from inside our head.


But hey... that's just me.

I absolutely agree. It's totally natural that we are attracted to people who have been with us throughout our previous lives (though I'm yet to find one myself >.<)

[Yellow Flash]

I absolutely agree. It's totally natural that we are attracted to people who have been with us throughout our previous lives (though I'm yet to find one myself >.<)

Personally I don't agree with that idea, and I think it is more to do with how we are made, and something in our brains.......(But, that's cause I don't believe in re-incarnation)

[Sora'sfangirl]

Personality, sense of humour, and what we have in common.

[neko_sakura]

This is helpful, for another debate I am having with Phatom.......so thank you

no problem. i googled it. heheheh

[Yellow Flash]

google is the way.....So what do you think bout love???

[Angelic_Darkness24]

love: giving someone the chance to rip out everything u are but trusting them to protect it with their own, to be forever in the arms of one and stay with them till the very last breathe they take.

[Kryptik]

Well there's a variety of explanations for "love" but I don't think any one knows the "true" and "exact" meaning of it since it's just there and it happens.

[Naminette]

hormones =]

[Kryptik]

hormones =]

Well in my opinion thats a possibility with gene's and blood cells. If you want to become technical the blood cells that go to the brain tell the brain to do something. So if that something is love for instance then yes hormones could be a likely hood in that equation.
Also gene's build up humanities hormones as they mature. Usually the maturation age is 14 years old I believe maybe older but it depends on the individual itself.

[Miss Lockheart]

Whatever it is, it gives me a headache >.<

[Kryptik]

*shrugs*... Well the only love I have is for Entertainment!...XD...

[Nikkikuh]

uuhhh buh buh buh buh......

Scientifically we naturally fall in love with the ppl who smell good to us. And they smell good to us bc of their different genetic cells or something. The less their cells match yours, the better the chances you will have a healthy reproduction with that person. Which is why they smell good to you :rolleyes:


oooorrrr in emotional terms, I'd end up ranting.
But in opionion...I don't know there is such a thing as two ppl being perfect for each other.
There is no perfect person with and extent that mathces to the other perfect person's extent.
There's only perfect love. :P

[Yellow Flash]

That makes sense........although do we know we are smelling someone???

[Miss Lockheart]

Nope, smell is a very subtle thing, although these days we tend to damage our sense of smell with all the chemical crap around us. But yes, pheremones can be detected by the nose even without being very strong. And I'm sure you'll have noticed when someone has a unique "smell" about them. Not a bad one, and not particularly an awesome one, but it's a unique tag they have. I notice people's smells a lot but that's because my nose is trained :P